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Success

In the name of Allah, The Most Merciful The Most Beneficent.

There is already much success spelled out in this clause which all Muslims are advised to mention before partaking in any activity as a way of seeking blessings and guidance from Allah.
As a Muslim, you must involve Allah entirely in your life regardless of whether it is in the past, present or future.
Thank Allah for the good in your past and seek His forgiveness from the opposite. Ask Allah to keep you from falling into the same traps of shaytan which may have characterized your past. Seek refuge in Allah from depression which may arise from regrets about your past. Learn and move on.
Say, O my slaves who have transgressed against themselves, do not despair of the Mercy of Allah, indeed Allah forgives all sins. Indeed He is The oft- Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Al Quran 43:53)
Ask for the help and Guidance of Allah in all your present affairs from the littlest of things to the major ones, and this is a means of achieving the blessings of Allah in your life. Put in your best effort in attempt to achieve your goal after seeking the guidance of Allah. Do not slacken or give up when things do not go your way. Instead, think only good about Allah, He may have warded off a bigger calamity than what you may perceive as a failure. It may be a test to elevate your ranks in both this world and in the akhira. When things go your way, never become haughty. Always remember Allah by thanking Him for the Blessings and favors He has conferred upon you by using your success to get closer to Allah. If you do this, you are on your way to a happy and successful life, by the Will of Allah.
And if you were to count the Blessings of Allah, you will never be able to count them. Truly Allah is oft forgiving, Most Merciful. (Al Quran 16:18)
And remember) when your Lord proclaimed: ‘If you give thanks (by accepting faith and worshipping none but Allah), I will give you more (of My blessings); but if you are thankless (i.e. disbelievers), verily, My punishment is indeed severe’” [14:7]
Likewise, seek Allah and lay your future plans in accordance with the guidance of the Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon Him). Worry not about the future, for it is in the Hands of Allah.
Last but not least, accustom yourself to asking the Most Merciful to keep your heart steadfast upon the Deen by mentioning the following dua as often as possible:
يا مقلب القلوب، ثبت قلبي على دينك
O Turner of hearts, keep my heart steadfast upon your Deen.

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Prophet Noah

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم


The corporate world is flooded with learned professionals and competent organizations. However, what majorly dictates their success in the market is experience in their respective fields. In simple human resource terms, the more the experience the better the results.


The Prophet Noah(may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is the first of the 5 Prophets who had a strong will power as mentioned by Allah in the Quran . He, spent 950 years of his time on earth calling people to the oneness of Allah. This was enough time for him to master the art and gather enough experience.


However, this was not an ordinary job which followed the predictable trend of human resource rules. 950 years is over and above the average human standards by a great percentage.


As they say, hard work equals great results. But this is yet another rule that was not applicable in his case. Prophet Noah, throughout his 9 ½ century tenure as a caller to Allah, gathered only a handful of believers amounting to not more than 100.


I can only try to imagine from a human perspective how Prophet Noah felt like when the rejection from his people intensified not only from outside but also from within his own home!


“O you who believe! Among your spouses and children there may be enemies for you, so beware of them. Yet, if you pardon, forbear, and forgive (their faults towards you and in worldly matters), then (know that) God is All-Forgiving, All-Compassionate.” (Quran 64:14)


His own wife and son turned their backs on him as mentioned in the Quran chapter 66 verse 10 and chapter 11 verse 42 respectively. What can be more hurtful than knowing there is no way of saving your own family from the looming wrath of Allah?


But what to do? He had done his best and tried everything possible but the decree of Allah came to pass.


“So relate the stories, perhaps they may reflect.” Quran 7:176
Sometimes we face disappointments and betrayal from our most immediate relatives. But it is incumbent upon every Muslim to establish and maintain relationships according to the guidelines dictated by the Quran and Sunnah.


Muslims faced with such a trial must have deep insight and try to achieve wisdom to deal with the situation in the best way; the only way. To seek help and guidance from Allah.


A wise Muslim will always crawl back to Allah at the start and the end of the day. The secret to ultimate victory lies in seeking assistance from Allah and being patient.


Focusing on building oneself by shedding more light on the positive rather than negative after the outcome of the situation is a great way to heal after such incidences. For instance, one can seek to take the lesson and move on with life rather than killing him/herself by replaying the memories. This can lead to depression and other stress related diseases.


Islam encourages people to sort out disputes amongst themselves in 3 days or less; if the base of the argument is a worldly matter. Otherwise, it is better to seek verdict from reliable religious scholars of correct aqeedah, on the way forward.


“It is not permissible for a man to forsake his Muslim brother for more than three days, each of them turning away from the other when they meet. The better of them is the one who gives the greeting of salaam first.” (Bukhari, 5727; Muslim, 2560)


Thus, whoever faces a trial through a disagreement with close family member can try and follow the example of Prophet Noah by seeking the assistance of Allah until it becomes clear what must be done.
Strive to say the following dua as often as possible.


ربنا هب لنا من أزواجنا و ذرياتنا قرة أعين و جعلنا للمتقين إماما
Our Lord, bestow upon us in our spouses and offspring a coolness for our eyes, and make us leaders of the righteous.

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Religion versus Culture

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم


It is a good feeling to have a social circle and sense of belonging. Actually, it is an encouraged aspect of human growth that a person should have mates and this has many positive effects upon the growth and development of a person as a whole.


Belonging to certain group or category gives rise to norms specific for that particular circle which can be termed as culture.


Every society is entitled to freedom of practicing its own culture provided it does not oppose the ultimate way set by Allah Almighty as dictated by Islam.


Islam came not to nullify cultures, but to perfect them. A good example is how the position of the female in the society before Islam was totally debased and viewed as the lowest of all creatures so much so that some people would bury alive female offspring for fear of embarrassment. This was a normal and permissible culture at the time. Islam came and elevated the status of the female which can be witnessed, from the right sources, how protected the Muslim woman is by her religion.


However, some bad cultural practices deeply rooted within the hearts of some Muslims, take the better part of their judgment, leaving only a minute percentage for aspects of religion which they agree with because it favors them in one way or another.


This is confirmed by the words of Allah in chapter 22 verse 11 in the Quran.
“And among people are those who worship Allah on the [very] fringe, if good fortune befalls him he is content with it, but if an ordeal befalls him, he turns his face about, losing this world and the Hereafter. That is the manifest loss.”


How is it possible for people to worship Allah on a fringe unless their hearts are attached elsewhere. Who are they kidding?


It is upon a proper Muslim to learn the correct way of Islam by seeking knowledge from reliable scholars upon the Quran and sunnah. Jesting is not part of the religion. A person is either black or white with their religion. Gray is not an option for a focused Muslim.


It is not for an upright Muslim to abandon religious teachings on the behest of cultural norms which are plainly disputable in the sight of Islam. Would they still do it if the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him) was still walking among us? Would they count themselves fit to fight with the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him) for the sake of the religion giving up their comfort, or would they sit back and say it is too hot outside or we are busy with our families?


It is upon you o Muslim, and again, it is upon you o Muslim, to stay firm against cultural practices disputing with the religion of Allah for the sake of Allah.


“O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah, as witnesses to fair dealing, and let not the hatred of others to you make you swerve to wrong and depart from justice. Be just: that is next to piety: and fear Allah. For Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do.”Al-Qur’an 5:8

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HABITS

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم


Each passing year, Ramadan comes and goes. We try, sometimes our best, sometimes not. The baseline remains that we try a bit harder than any other month of the calendar no matter how small the steps we take are.


What we must strive for is consistency. This is the baseline for successfully uplifting your Iman, by the will of Allah.


Ramadan is like the trainer course and the rest of the months are application of what you learnt. How much from the habits that you picked up last Ramadhan have actually made it to this Ramadhan for you? The answer is with you.


Take out some time and ponder over how much you retained since last Ramadan that was not there the previous years.


If you find anything in your list, say Alhamdulillah. If not, say Alhamdulillah. Promise yourself that this Ramadhan will be different. Pick up a specific habit e.g. making istighfar(asking for Allah’s forgiveness) very often or attending all 5 prayers in the masjid for the brothers, or quitting a bad habit such as backbiting or smoking etc. The list is long but just remember that consistency is key. If you did it in Ramadhan, then most definitely you can do it outside Ramadhan.


After you have identified a particular habit you would like to keep for always, ask Allah to help you and the rest shall be easy.


Most importantly, do not forget to make your intentions pure only for the sake of Allah.

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Spousehood

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم


A sign from the many signs of Allah is the companionship between a man and his wife in the sacred union of marriage as is mentioned in the Quran in chapter 30 verse 21.


Islam provides clear guidelines of how each spouse must live with the other in order to provide a convenient environment for the growth of a healthy family and hence society.


Many times, a good man is tested through a bad wife. The Quran gives the perfect examples of messengers of Allah who were among this category. Prophet Noah and prophet Lot, peace and blessings of Allah be upon them.


Other times, the vice versa is true. A good woman is tested through a bad husband as the example of Aasiya the wife of Pharaoh is cited in the Quran.


Today, I pondered upon this. Many righteous brothers and sisters go through extremely rough patches in their marriages, and choose to seek the help of Allah through being patient and praying about it. I came up with a list of several facts which by the will of Allah will benefit us all.


Brothers,
Your wife is the jewel of the home
• Polish her and she will shine from the inside and out. When she shines, your entire home will be illuminated by the soft radiance emanating from her.
• Take the utmost delicate care of her, and avoid hurting her feelings at all costs, the result, will reflect who you really are.
• Appreciate your wife’s effort, no matter how small. Never for a second think that your complement and word of encouragement and appreciation will make her haughty. No, rather, women like to be told good things, let her know.
• Love her today like it is her last. Anyways who is promised of tomorrow, it could really be her last day on earth.
• Never take advantage of her soft feminine nature by being aggressive. Aggressiveness is for the outside, reciprocate tenderness with tenderness.
• Avoid harboring feelings of disgust towards her in your heart, learn to forgive and forget; it is better for your health.
• Set yourself on a quest to find 10 things you love about your wife with an open mind. You’ll be sure to find at least 11. And be steadfastly patient when dealing with your wife.
• Communicate with her using the best words in your vocabulary. She learns from you.
• Consult her and give her a chance to advise you, don’t forget to take it with an open mind.
• Your wife is a jewel from the most precious jewels on earth and she is the queen of your house.


Sisters,
• Your husband is a creation from the creations of Allah and know that only Allah is complete and perfect. A beautiful piece of advice from our beloved Prophet (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him) is that a person should look at those below him in status. This is a great means of achieving contentment with what Allah has bestowed upon you.
• Never compare your husband to any man because he is the one, out of the billions of men out there, who Allah, The Most Wise, chose for you. Allah does not burden a soul with more than it can bear.
• Remember the immense rights that a husband has over his wife as mentioned in the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
“If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anything other than Allaah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no woman will fulfil her duty towards her Lord unless she fulfils her duty towards her husband, and if he asks her for herself when she is sitting on a saddle, she should not refuse him.”
• And fear to be from the vast number of women who the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) saw in the Hell fire.
• Always be appreciative of your husband. He works hard for you and your children.
• Respect your husband like you will never respect again. The last thing he wants from you right now is disrespect.
• Accustom yourself to be on your best behavior when dealing with your husband. And remember bad behavior can make the prettiest woman on earth the most abhorred creature in the eyes of her husband. Besides, your behavior will be the behavior of your children. So learn good manners.
• Know when to chip in and offer your advice and opinion and always remember that the last word remains to be your husband’s.
• Make every sacrifice possible for your marriage, without being unjust to yourself, expecting reward only from Allah.
• Never waste your husband’s money.
• Last but not least, in every single prayer, mention your husband’s name in goodness in front of Allah.

All married couples must seek to establish a beautiful and healthy relationship and strive to build each other as exemplified in the marriages of our Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.


Brothers, do not be Pharaohs, and sisters do not be like the wives of Lot and Noah.

‘If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadaan), guards her modesty and obeys her husband, it will be said to her, “Enter Paradise through whichever gate of Paradise you wish.”

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Message from Nabi to you.

Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam wants you to know that there are four things; if you attain them, nothing you miss in this world will ever matter to you.

  1. PRESERVE TRUST/AMAANAH.
  2. ALWAYS SPEAK THE TRUTH
  3. HAVE GOOD CHARACTER
  4. EAT MODERATELY

 

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My Ears!

Alhamdulillah

Alhamdulillah, all thanks and praises to Allah

He gave me ears, and eyes and a heart

But today, let’s talk ears.

My ears, of which I can hear,

The beautiful adhaan, every fajr till ishaa

And when the muadhdhin says “come to falaah (success)!”

I know it is time to stand, in front of Allah,

And make my salah.

Which of the favours of my rabb can I deny?

 

Alhamdulillah, all thanks and praises to Allah,

Because of the ears by the side of my head,

I know the voices of my beloveds,

I know the beauty of the Quran

The words of my rabb,

I know about rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

And his noble example,

I know of the description of Jannah and naar!

Then tell me, which of the favours of my rabb can I deny?

 

Alhamdulillah, all thanks and praises be to Allah

With my ears by the side of my head,

I am warned of a looming threat,

This is a blessing from my rabb.

Then why should I not be grateful

And do only that which is halaal with my ears?

Because I know, they are my amaanah

Of which I should look after

That I may not be ungreatful for the favours of my rabb.

 

Alhamdulillah, all thanks and praises be to Allah.

With my ears, I hear and I learn,

And I keep learning, through my hearing,

That which is good for me in this world and after,

And my prayer, rabbi zidnii ilma

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